Poor Jillise. She did really well her first day of school, and there were only a few misty tears yesterday on the 2nd day when I dropped her off. But when I picked her up yesterday afternoon she burst into tears and said, "Today wasn't such a good day. Michaela broke up with me!!" Michaela was a little girl who was all alone on the first day of school so I invited her to each lunch with Jillise and I. Then she and Jillise played at recess. Yesterday when I dropped Jillise off, Michaela came running up and said, "Hi!" and was very nice. But evidently by the last recess she had decided that she wanted to be friends with someone else and told Jillise she didn't want to be her friend any more. Jillise is just so tenderhearted that it destroyed her. I remember girls doing that in school, too. So does Brian. I think that in life you are either the dumper or the dumpee. Jillise is a dumpee. She said she went and played with her other friends instead, so I don't think she was left alone on the playground, but my heart still breaks for her. There is no one in her class from last year (well, there is one boy, but boys don't count) so she is starting fresh -- something I had to do lots of times growing up. I think I was in high school before I felt really confident about being the "persuer" when it came to making friends. Jillise is naturally friendly, but I don't see her walking up to a group of girls and asking to join in.
So this morning I dropped her off in front of the school. She was crying. Again. She wanted me to walk her in, but I know that I can walk her in today, but she will just cry in her classroom when I go. Even if I drop her off in front of the school for the first time four months from now, she will still cry. So I had to just do it. A very nice duty aide took her hand and walked her to the front of the school. I waited where she could see me and blew her a kiss. I'm sure she is fine, but it is hard to see your kid struggle and know it is something they are just going to have to work out for themselves.
I am going to go surprise her at lunch today. She is having hot lunch and Joelle and I will go join her. And I think I might bring a fun treat for her to share with the other NICE girls in her class. Couldn't hurt to solidify some friendships, right?
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That story just made me hurt for her too when you told me. Little girls can be mean, plain and simple. Heck, even adult girls can be mean! And Jillise being the wonderful, tender-hearted and sensitive little girl that she is will unfortuantely always have to battle with those type of kids. But lucky for her, she has a mom like you who IMHO strives to find the perfect balance in standing beside her to help her cope and pushing her forward to fly solo sometimes. I know I think pretty deeply too about how Bailey is treated--and even how sometimes he is in the wrong in how he treats others--but all we can do is the best we can and try and give our children the tools they need to work their way through life. I love Jillise, I think she is a wonderful little girl who any other little girl would be fortuante to call their friend. She'll be okay :)
Your comment that "boys don't count" made me laugh. Having 3 boys, we have just never run into this situation. My boys are so matter of fact about other boys. You play with one today and another tomorrow...you make friends and if another boy wants to join a game of basketball, great! You can always use more players in boys games :)
I think the hardest thing about being a mom is seeing your kids get hurt emotionally. Each of my boys has a cry that tells me that they are truly sad. I tear up almost every time I hear that cry.
It's so sad that junk like this has to start so early, but arm her now with confidence and the ability to bounce back and she will be so great because of it.
Good luck and virtual hugs to Jillese!
It's so hard to see your kids get their feelings hurt. Girls are especially mean! I think you do a great job, like Shannon said, of standing up for her and letting her work things out. I hope she has better days ahead! Maybe Maika and Jillise can get together for a "nice-girl" playdate...call me:)
Wow. Sorry to hear about Jillese's tough week. I am sure she will recover and make alot of great friends this year. It will just take time and lots of hugs from mom!
What a hard situation! I swear boys have it so much easier then girls pretty much throughout their entire life.
That poor sweet girl. Girls are mean, it's a sad truth. BUT, there are a lot of girls out there who are nice,s o she just needs to find those sweet little things! I hope it gets better soon!
So tough for the little ones. I am sorry to here of her 'bad day'. I hope that everything goes better
oh, that's so hard. But like you said, it's something that she has to learn and figure out for herself -- you can't always be there. But it sounds like you're doing a great job supporting her. Here's to a happy monday!
That is so sad!! Libby is having similar situations in Kindergarten this week. Her best church/neighborhood friend is in her class and when Libby wants to try to include others in their play her friend storms off and cries and says Libby doesn't love her anymore.
I thought mean girls weren't supposed to start until 6 grade!
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